Lunes, Agosto 16, 2010

Tips paano makaka recover pag heart broken.

"Tuloy pa rin ang awit ng buhay ko
Nagbago man ang hugis ng puso mo
Handa na ‘kong hamunin ang aking mundo
basta tuloy pa rin" - a song from neocolors


Getting your strength back from a bad break up is hard, kahit hindi mo na mahal ang isang tao, mahirap na, or if you loved them, and still do, it is even harder.

Heto ang mga tips kung paano makakarecover sa break up and heal your shattered heart: (tips lang to ha you can share your own)

Ilabas ang sama ng loob, Iyakan blues(1st step)
Let it all out if you want to. Crying is good. Wala naman dapat ikahiya sa pag iyak (kahit lalaki kapa). It is part of life. You will find that there are going to be hard times that hit you all of a sudden and you will feel like crying and letting it all out, Ilabas mo lahat. You need to do this any way to keep your sanity kesa naman sa di mo ilalabas tapos para kang tanga ta tulala lagi. Isipin mo langt na this will help you feel better and get back on track. You need to do this when you feel the urge and do not worry about what others think.

Humanap ng kaibigan ng masasabihan ng problema
You need to share your feelings. Getting out what you are feeling is going to make you feel better inside. You want to share these feelings with your friends and family or anyone that will listen to you. Having a good support is going to help you get through the tough times faster. You do not have to let it out all at once. Talk about it slowly and work your way up to getting it all out in the open.

Iwasang sisihin and sarili (ta^^mahh)
Stop beating yourself up. While it is a good idea na malaman mo kung ano ang nagging pagkukulang mo and ano ba yung mga nagawa mong mali or mali din nya,Pero do not put all the blame on yourself. You will be in a terrible situation already when you are heart-broken. You will only make matters worse when you keep blaming yourself. Do not sit around and mag mokmok at mag pa ka EMO na iniisa-isa ang mga bagay na pagkukulang mo or everything that you did wrong in your relationship. Chances are that you both could have changed things for the better of the relationship, so it was not just you. It takes two to tango ika nga. You will make your pain more intense when you keep thinking about it instead of finding a solution. You should understand that everybody has weaknesses, including you and your partner. Accept the mistakes you committed and strive to avoid them in the future.

Ibaling sa ibang ang atensyon and act as if you are moving on.
Start participating in new activities and picking up new hobbies. If there is something that you have always wanted to do, but never made time for it (kase nga busy ka sa relationship mo dati), here is your chance! Do not be afraid to try new things, it is a wonderful way to get your mind off your heart break. Doing the things that you love the most will help you get over the break up too. You will want to make sure that you are keeping up with your hobbies and doing what makes you the happiest. Like on my end I love computers I have the time now to check new updates about computer technology on the internet. I also keep track of my schedule on track and stay busy at work being a tech lead in a call center (isali ba ang sarili ko). Do the same and this will help you heal faster. Keeping busy is key. You need to stay on the go and keep your mind occupied. This will allow you to keep those unhappy and undesirable life events out of your mind and keep you motivated to stay healthy. You want to make sure that you are doing all that you can to stay busy. You will want to talk to your friends, go out more and spend some time with your family. These things will make you feel better and help heal your wounded heart. It is difficult to feel pain when you are excited with what you are doing. When you participate in an activity that you have been longing for, you won't have time to be gloomy as you focus on your heart-break. This is the time to make your dream come true.

Reassure Yourself na “kaya mo yan”
Wake up in the morning and look at yourself in the mirror and say that you want to live life. This is very essential as until you don't feel like living, anything you do wouldn't be done whole heartedly. You are not a loser to run away from life just because of some hard situations that you have to face. Mending a broken heart is far easier than losing your life. Life is God's gift and we should make good use of it, so sulking and crying should be shown the door.

Take a Break! And Laugh Your Lungs Out
The best thing to do once you've had a breakup is to take some time off for yourself and get a grip of your feelings and emotions. The state of mind that one is in during or after a break up will not let you concentrate and give your best to anything you do. So take a little break from work and rather work on getting back your usual self. There are so many good comedy movies that will have you rolling all over with tears in your eyes laughing watching them. Walk to your nearby store and rent some good titles and watch them. Laughter is the best medicine; it not only exercises your muscles but also clears up your lungs and will be a perfect medicine to mend your broken heart. Laughter works like a therapy for your body and soul, so laugh as much as you can, and you wouldn't even realize that it's been quite some time that your mind wandered and thought about your ex.

Date once again (Date lang muna ha.di ko sinabi makipag relasyon agad)
When you find another person to date, you will have someone else to give your attention to. This will help you to get your heart-break off your mind.
Actually, broken heart is hard to deal with no matter how the break up goes down. It is something that may hurt for a long time to come. You need to figure out how to get over a broken heart when it happens. It may not be something that you want to think about but you have to do it because life does go on and you need to take advantage of it.

Bottomline mga kakosa.
Think about what is good for you. You have to get over this broken heart fast so that you are able to feel better. You need to make good choices for what is good for your heart and soul. Make sure that you are not putting yourself in any situation that may be harmful for you. Getting over the breakup is important and you need to do what is best for you.
Taking good care of yourself is important. You want to keep eating and exercising and staying healthy. You need to keep your strength up so that you are able to be strong and able to feel good about yourself. This will help you get over the break up and get back on track.

Time is of the essence. You need to remember that all wounds heal with time. You need to give yourself the time and soon you will notice that you are not feeling so bad and that life is good again.T here is no need to worry when you are involved in a break up. Everyone has been through it and there is going to be happiness again. When a relationship breakup happens, understand that it is not your fault and do not put all the blame on yourself. It usually does mean that something has gone off-balance in your life and in your relationship and you need to put that balance back.